The following story is from Simon Sinek’s book Leaders Eat Last and illustrates how a position we hold can wrongly alter how people view and value an individual. The leader in this story was the former U.S. Under Secretary of Defense.
The Ceramic Cup
While making a speech at a large conference, he took his place on the stage and began talking, sharing his prepared remarks with the audience. He paused to take a sip of coffee from the Styrofoam cup he’d brought on stage with him. He took another sip, looked down at the cup and smiled. “You know,” he said, interrupting his own speech, “I spoke here last year. I presented at this same conference on this same stage. But last year, I was still the Under Secretary,” he said. “I flew here in business class and when I landed, there was someone waiting for me at the airport to take me to my hotel. Upon arriving at my hotel,” he continued, “there was someone else waiting for me. They had already checked me into the hotel, so they handed me my key and escorted me up to my room. The next morning, when I came down, again there was someone waiting for me in the lobby to drive me to this same venue that we are in today. I was taken through a back entrance, shown to the green room and handed a cup of coffee in a beautiful ceramic cup.”
But this year, as I stand here to speak to you, I am no longer the Under Secretary. I flew here coach class and when I arrive at the airport yesterday there was no one there to meet me. I took a taxi to the hotel, and when I go there, I checked myself in and went by myself to my room. This morning, I came down to the lobby and caught another taxi to come here. I came in the front door and found my way backstage. Once there, I asked one of the techs if there was any coffee. He pointed to a coffee machine on a table against the wall. So, I walked over and poured myself a cup of coffee into this here Styrofoam cup.
It occurs to me, the ceramic cup they gave me last year was never meant for me at all. It was meant for the position I held. I deserve a Styrofoam cup. This is the most important lesson I can impart to all of you. All of the perks, all the benefits and advantages you may get for the rank or position you hold, they aren’t meant for you. They are meant for the role you fill. And when you leave your role, which eventually you will, they will give the ceramic cup to the person who replaces you. Because you only ever deserve a Styrofoam cup.”
This story is a good reminder that position is not the person, and serves as good advice to leaders to not start thinking more of themselves than we might deserve. Stay humble!
Lead Well.