I’m reading a book by an author new to me, Tony Stoltzfus. He is an expert in the area of leadership coaching and offers some very practical information for anyone who desires to have an impact on the people they lead. I came across a troubling statistic that stated: “Sixty percent of pastors in the U.S. feel that they don’t have anyone in their life they can talk to honestly about their job.” Having watched my father who was a pastor keep at an arm’s distance from people within the churches he served, and personally having been in full-time ministry for 25 years, I understand how difficult it is for pastors to open up and be transparent with those who often expect them to be superhuman.
Unfortunately, it is not only pastors who feel this way. Leaders in all industries often find themselves isolated from the masses. The old adage, “It’s lonely at the top” has more truth to it than many understand. However, as Stoltzfus points out, it is critical for everyone, including leaders to have someone in their lives with which they can be absolutely open, honest, and transparent. Having this kind of relationship allows us to process the pressures we face, deal with uncertainty, vent frustrations, and develop an optimistic view of the future, even when the present is challenging.
Do you have someone whom you can turn to? Do you have a trusting relationship with someone who can truly help you move forward through difficult times? As a leader, we are often called upon to help our people through challenging experiences, and we will be better equipped to do so when we have someone in our own life that does the same for us. If you don’t have that mentor, coach, or friend, spend some time to develop it. You will be a better leader if you do.
Lead well.